You know the word has been out about AIDS prevention, then you hear about barebacking.
You learn about people who have gone down the crystal meth road, and then learn
which hospital they are in and how long they have been there.
You worry about young men who take too casually the threat of unprotected sex,
or Party and Play, and who never seem to wonder
why there aren't more middle aged guys around anymore.
This page was inspired by an email SBNO received telling of a new site for guys living with
AIDS. SBNO was reminded that information needs to continually be put OUT THERE
to remind everyone to be careful and to respect ourselves and our partner(s).
There are also options, choices and opportunities for the POZ guy. Being POZ can sometimes
mean a feeling of isolation and separateness because of his status - often self imposed.
SBNO met such a guy recently, when we both attended one of the events listed
in the calendar of this website. It was good to see him there,
enjoying himself, and maybe he seemed a bit surprised
by life outside his immediate perimeter. Others there, too,
were glad to see him because he is funny and witty and smart.
We are all here together, whether our community is the few square blocks surrounding
our homes, or the folks – the guys – “just like us” most everywhere we go.
We need to respect ourselves and also respect the other guys out there for,
in caring about them and the quality of their lives
we are really caring about our own.
Welcome to the SEX Page.
How risky is it?
Very! "Barebacking" - unprotected anal intercourse between men - is only safe when both partners are not infected
with HIV or other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
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“It's hard to be proud
of your own sexuality
when it hasn't brought you any joy.
Once it's associated with
joy, and love,
it's easy to be proud
of who you are.”
- George Michael
Darius: "Hate AIDS Jeffrey - not life"
Darius: "Just think of AIDS as the guest at the party who won't leave.
The one we all hate. But you have to remember . . . "
Darius: "It's still our party."
-from the play and movie "Jeffrey" written by Paul Rudnick